“Someone has said that people would rather be understood than be loved. In truth, the surest way to increase our love for someone is to listen with patience and respect. I believe that our baptismal covenant demands this. How can we ‘mourn with those that mourn’ and ‘bear one another’s burdens’ (Mosiah 18:8-9) if we don’t listen to know what those burdens are? … But we must be careful not to listen as Laman and Lemuel listened to each other. They encouraged mutual murmuring. When fellow ward members complain, blame others, and repeat negative tales, it takes self-discipline to stop ourselves from adding more fuel to their fire of disgruntlement. Mutual murmuring is a smoldering fire that can burst into flame and destroy a ward.” (Virginia H. Pearce, Ensign, Nov. 1993, p. 80)
Mourn with Those Who Mourn … . Bear One Another’s Burdens
“Someone has said that people would rather be understood than be loved. In truth, the surest way to increase our love for someone is to listen with patience and respect. I believe that our baptismal covenant demands this. How can we ‘mourn with those that mourn’ and ‘bear one another’s burdens’ (Mosiah 18:8-9) if we don’t listen to know what those burdens are? … But we must be careful not to listen as Laman and Lemuel listened to each other. They encouraged mutual murmuring. When fellow ward members complain, blame others, and repeat negative tales, it takes self-discipline to stop ourselves from adding more fuel to their fire of disgruntlement. Mutual murmuring is a smoldering fire that can burst into flame and destroy a ward.” (Virginia H. Pearce, Ensign, Nov. 1993, p. 80)